What happens when you feel an emotion but refuse to admit it? Maybe more than you think.
From the time we were children, most of us have been taught that it's OK to express certain feelings but not others. We learned to hide emotions that made other people uncomfortable or that somehow put us in a less than favorable light. It was OK to feel grateful but not angry, OK to feel confident but not scared, OK to defer to our parents but not to question them, etc.
Sometimes we even learned to hide these unacceptable feelings from ourselves. We feel frightened of social contact, but deny it and pretend boredom. We feel hurt and rejected, but deny it and call it anger. We feel resentful of abusive behavior but deny it, and call it a successful relationship because we believe we need it to survive.
But unacknowledged feelings almost always cause trouble. We may be able to stuff them down inside temporarily, but they invariably find another escape route. Unacknowledged feelings will often manifest themselves in physical ways - in backaches, headaches, ulcers, or other more serious illnesses.
What were you taught about feelings as a child? Now that you're older, perhaps you'd like to learn what others have to say. Try reading John Bradshaw on shame, or Martin Seligman on depression and optimism, or Harriet Lerner on anger, for starters. There is an abundance of treatises on the effects of suppressed anger. Then, make up your own mind.
Lou Tice
The Pacific Institute
www.thepacificinstitute.com
The effects of The Pacific Institute's education are reverberating around the world. For weekly updates, go to www.TPIGlobalNews.com
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Monday, June 14, 2010
Learning Styles
When you are learning something new, what helps you learn more easily and what interferes with the process? Today, let's talk about learning styles.
There are different styles of almost everything you can do or buy, from playing a guitar to picking out a new car. But, did you know that there are also different styles of learning? Some folks are visual learners; they literally need to see relationships with their eyes before they can understand. Other people learn best when they can hear new ideas.
Some people like to think a problem through before they try to solve it, while others feel more comfortable with a trial and error approach. Some people, like me, like to see an overview of how what they're doing fits into the big picture before it makes sense. Others feel just fine working on one isolated area of a larger project, as long as they understand how their particular part works.
You see, there is no one best way to learn or to teach. The best teachers adjust their styles to suit individual learners, and the best learners learn to make their needs known, or they set up circumstances that facilitate their own unique style. Remember, your child may not have the same learning style that you do, and two kids in the same family may learn equally well but by very different methods.
For best results, honor these differences. Find out all you can about your children's learning styles, and refrain from trying to force square-peg-learners into round-hole-experiences. You'll both be happier. And you might just learn something new about yourself.
Lou Tice
The Pacific Institute
www.thepacificinstitute.com
The effects of The Pacific Institute's education are reverberating around the world. For weekly updates, go to www.TPIGlobalNews.com
The Pacific Institute, Inc. copyrights 1997-2010. All rights reserved.
Winner's Circle Network with Lou Tice (WCN) is a registered trademark of The Pacific Institute.
There are different styles of almost everything you can do or buy, from playing a guitar to picking out a new car. But, did you know that there are also different styles of learning? Some folks are visual learners; they literally need to see relationships with their eyes before they can understand. Other people learn best when they can hear new ideas.
Some people like to think a problem through before they try to solve it, while others feel more comfortable with a trial and error approach. Some people, like me, like to see an overview of how what they're doing fits into the big picture before it makes sense. Others feel just fine working on one isolated area of a larger project, as long as they understand how their particular part works.
You see, there is no one best way to learn or to teach. The best teachers adjust their styles to suit individual learners, and the best learners learn to make their needs known, or they set up circumstances that facilitate their own unique style. Remember, your child may not have the same learning style that you do, and two kids in the same family may learn equally well but by very different methods.
For best results, honor these differences. Find out all you can about your children's learning styles, and refrain from trying to force square-peg-learners into round-hole-experiences. You'll both be happier. And you might just learn something new about yourself.
Lou Tice
The Pacific Institute
www.thepacificinstitute.com
The effects of The Pacific Institute's education are reverberating around the world. For weekly updates, go to www.TPIGlobalNews.com
The Pacific Institute, Inc. copyrights 1997-2010. All rights reserved.
Winner's Circle Network with Lou Tice (WCN) is a registered trademark of The Pacific Institute.
Saturday, June 5, 2010
Sea To Shining Sea- Disabled Veteran Bike Ride Across the USA
http://s2ssbikeride.org/ These are brave and strong Disabled Veterans. They go roughly 60 Miles a day. They Started in San Franscico California and will end in Virginia Beach on July 24th!! Here is a few photo's of the group as they made a stop in Cedar City!
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